Two more Bondage Bunnies from the past.

This was drawn in pencil and lined in with ink, then digitally colored.

This was done all by hand. Pencil and Ink.

Bondage Bunnies

This is some art I did in 2009. I wanted to post some of my old art, also a like minded friend of mine may get a kick out of this piece. I have a series of "bondage bunnies" artwork in the vault.
~Shin

Locks

Something about locks that add a wonderful sense of inescapable beauty.

 

Composure

I removed the last post, I wrote the post when I was still working it out in my head.

   The main point of the post however was keeping your control in any situation. This is the gravitational pull the submissive gets that reinforces their choice to submit.

   My wife and I do not practice the lifestyle 24/7, we do like to have fun, this leads to some very amazing sex. When I first started reading into the lifestyle it was mainly for some fun kinky sex, not that our marriage was hurting or that our sexlife was boring, I'm blessed with a wonderful marriage. We just wanted to play around and explore with each other. We tried roleplaying but couldn't get past the "stay in character", we laughed to much couldn't take it serious. In our adventure we have had a lot of fun, the D/s always intrigued me though.

   It was something we didn't have to play a character as, just be yourself basically. I've learned much about myself by learning more of the lifestyle. I love my wife and who she is, I love that naughty side of her that comes out when we have fun. The more I apply the lifestyle to my own life, the more it naturally happens, in and around me.

   So back to the main point, keeping control and composure. I didn't completely keep my composure in my last post so I removed it. The message is, a Dom must keep control of emotion in a situation that the submissive may loose control of emotion. When the submissive sees the Dom keeping control, this will reinforce the submissive choice to submit, and possibly submit more, as they see more. There is more I would like to say about this, but I have run out of time, sick children need attention.

~Shin

Blindfold and Rope

Oh the fun to have!

~Shin



Importance of a Name

   I have finally found the names we will use for each other. Lots of time has gone into these, generic names such as good girl, pet, slave, slut, Master, Dom, Sir, the list goes on, are all fine and good to use in the moment. I wanted to find something unique to both of us.
  
   I have decided to use Shin'Cen (Shin for short), and shay'lynn (shay for short). These are names that have meaning to both of us, Shin is a pen-name I have used for about 10 years now on a site I post minor bdsm art. Shay'lynn is, well... urban dictionary defines shay as "the girl every girl wants to be," and lynn is my wifes middle name (there also happens to be a street named shay lynn on a country road we travel often).
  
   So now that I have the ball rolling, I am looking forward to more post, along with art work I have been working on for the past few months.

   The picture above is one I sketched a few nights ago after I put the names together. Again this is only a sketch, for a "finished" piece I would normally ink in the lines, and spend much more time on the shading.  However, today I have some time to spend on the blog, and a few post I want to get posted before the moment passes, along with some artwork for your viewing pleasure.

Enjoy

~Shin

Winter to Spring

   This was a very challenging year, a long, cold and dark winter. It was the same for everyone I know, and anyone I had conversation with. Something also new for me personally, was how much the darkness effected me. I have lived in Alaska for most of my life, I know how darkness can effect people, alaska has one of the highest suicide rates in the world. Maybe its my age, or any number of things really, but this was the first year it really effected me.

   Now spring is approching, the sun is out, the weather is warming up, the snow is melting quickly and moods seem to be lifting.

   With that said, life is always a learning process, it never lets up. If your not learning something from life, you are not paying enough attention. In good times or bad, there is always knowledge and wisdom to be gained. My wife and I, like many married couples, have learned how to work with each other in the hard moments of life. Even when we are not agreeing with each other, we will eventually talk about what is bothering us and work it out.

     In the middle of learning and growing in the lifestyle, a "harder" moment in life sprung up. Right when things were getting hot and heavy you might say, on a night I had planned for some time. This was something outside of our bedroom life, that we both had to deal with. Stresses have been high with us and everyone around us, so the tension had its effect. We have an awsome sex life honestly, but there are times when life gets in the way. This was starting to happen to often, every time we had a night planned, something came up. At one point it was not looking to good, thankfully we pulled through.

   What I have learned during this winter is that you have to be conscious of life around you. To be able to discern the right time for things, so to speak. I had to set my plans aside for a moment to deal with life, not toss them away completely because of bad timing. At first it seemed my plans were not going to happen at all, after a lot of patience however, the time was right. My wife opened up to me a little more, I was able to try some ideas, and we enjoyed a wonderful night together, with a very explosive ending for both of us.

   Taking things slow is very important, it's wise to have patience in all aspects of life, especially when starting on a personal journey together.

Peace and Love

D

What is a Gentleman

A Gentleman...


is Well Dressed
is Polite
is Courteous
is Humble
is Sincere
Has Good Hygiene
Does not Swear
Has Control of Mind and Body
Keeps his Composure
Does not Reveal to much of himself
Does not talk about Politics
Talks Respectfully to Women
Smiles and holds eye contact
Holds to the Truth
Leads by Example

D

Growing and Learning

   I have for a short time been learning more about Dominance and submission in a relationship. It is an awkward but liberating moment when you come to terms with this and accept it as something you want in your life.
   It is also very difficult to find information out there for couples in a vanilla relationship moving to a D/s lifestyle.
   For weeks now I have scoured the internet for information, pulling what I can from sites I can find. The more I delve into this subject, the more I learn about myself as well.
   One thing I have learned is that, no person can truly dominate another unless they can dominate themselves. Sounds a little weird, but its true. If I as a Dominate let myself be ruled by my emotions, how can my wife feel safe submitting herself to me? She must see that I have control over myself and how I respond to what happens in life.
   I have learned much from what I feel it means to be Dominant. I find myself having more passion for my wife, more patience with my children, and a new respect for myself.
   My wife and I do not practice a D/s relationship 24/7, but elements of that nature are still present in our daily life. It makes me keep a certain standard in life, that also keeps my family to the same standard.

D

Starting out...

   This will be the first time I've kept a journal and stuck with it, also the first time to blog. The purpose of this is to collect my thoughts and resources, as I learn more of my journey.

   I am new to this lifestyle and learning more every day.

D